by Ask Zipy on 11-28-2018 in Other, Costa Rica
In the Wake of Tragedy
In the wake of tragedy, when the community needs to come together the most, is when it falls apart, time and time again. I’ve seen it happen after mass shootings (which seem to be almost daily in the States now), after devastating natural disasters, bombings abroad, car accidents, and really anything where something unimaginably terrible happens. Sometimes these horrible things happen at the hands of some unwell people or tough circumstances and sometimes, well, accidents just happen.
I think the number one issue, is that people do not know how to grieve. It is so much easier to be angry. It hurts less. We want answers and a source of the disaster so that we can put all of our blame and anger there so that we don’t have to deal with the pain and effort it takes to carry it with us. If that source has a face, even better.
“You. It was you. It was your fault and now you must suffer the way that I have.”
But, what have we forgotten? That as soon as our scapegoat has a face, we have to take into consideration the lives of this person/these people, because really, unintentionally or not, it is possible to destroy them whether it be emotionally, professionally, or financially.
Now we have a face and a name to blame. A person. People. We are putting blame on living, breathing souls, just like our own without considering their lives, their pain, their suffering. Although in some extreme cases, there is a psychopath who intentionally caused hurt, most times accidents just happen. They are awful, they are painful, there is not always a concrete answer and nothing in these situations is uncomplicated.
Recently, in my community, there was a terrible rafting accident. Four tourists died as well as a guide. The guide’s name was Kevin. Say it. Stop dehumanizing him. His name was Kevin Thompson. His life and his family suffered from this accident too, but somehow they got forgotten or lost in the shuffle by the expat and foreign communities. There was no GoFund me set up for their loss, no foreign outpouring of support . . . Just pain and an empty void in the lives of those who knew Kevin, his optimistic personality, and his infectious smile.
Did someone risk the lives of those involved on purpose? Certainly not. Were there various companies going out days before and days after (or even have intentions to go the same day as well)? Absolutely. However, in order to protect the guides and companies from scrutiny and more pain than they have already endured with the loss of their friend, threat to their livelihood, and mountains of false information, I will not stray from my points here.
What is an adventure or extreme sport? It is a sport that comes with great risks for the thrill of the adrenaline rush. All adventure companies are very clear that there are risks. The loss of limbs or life are included in those risks and are very clearly expressed in the waivers. Is it unlikely? Yes. Does it happen? Unfortunately.
We, by human nature, tend to assume that everyone follows the same rules and laws that we do which couldn’t be farther from the truth. We also tend to assume that our own way of life is the best, because really, it is all that we know. However, rules and laws change as culture changes. Laws that make sense in one country don’t in another. The idea of suing everyone for accidents and disasters is really a US concept. Other nations live with disasters every day and it is not because of lack of safety and concern, it is because environmental conditions are not the same everywhere. In fact, that is the very reason people travel!
That means, when traveling, many of us put our faith in the locals in order to help us navigate various situations. Who knows the land, streets, laws, in and outs and (especially in Costa Rica) the natural world better than the locals?
Costa Rica has some of the most incredible mountains, rivers, oceans, beaches, and wildlife in the world. In fact, the biodiversity here per square kilometer is unmatchable. With this breathtaking scenery comes the perils of nature: bug bites and stings, landslides, downpours, floods, raging rivers, destruction of homes and stores, and the rebuilding of life that comes after. It is a way of life here. People are connected to nature, not apart from it.
Guides here have spent their whole lives in the rivers, mountains, and parks learning the beauty and dangers of the natural world, training for a trade, and enjoying the gifts of every day. Does a piece of paper change their knowledge and experience? No, it does not. And some guides who have licenses don’t actually have the years of experience of another guide (who perhaps did not have the financial resources to acquire a certification).
Have you ever been in a car accident? I bet your answer is yes, big or small. All of that training and that license did not protect you from an accident. Sometimes it is user error and sometimes it is being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Either way, it is a pure accident.
Focusing on this situation, please be aware that the families, friends, and colleagues are suffering. ALL of the families of the deceased. So I ask of you, when you leave comments on social media, really think about what you are saying and the impact of those words. I’ve noticed that most of the people who are commenting do not fully understand the events of that day, the nature of the river, nor the force of the natural world of this incredible country.
Here is a guideline of some things to keep in mind: